Last straw

OK, it's come to this with the neighbor situation: either they go, or I go. It's non-negotiable. I can't take anymore of the drama, the angst and the bad blood. It's getting too stressful to deal with a neighbor who refuses communication, and as result, won't pay the half of the utilities owed. I can't keep affording this by myself. And this person is dragging family members into the situation that should not be involved and it is not fair to them OR to me. I'm at my wit's end and have no idea what to do or where to turn. The landlord is 2000 miles away and the neighbor only just moved in a few months ago, but it's not working out for either of us, and I've been here a year and a half and want to stay, but if I can't get fix the neighbor situation, I think it might be best for both of us if this person moves out and gets their own place that they do not have to share with anyone. It's like oil and water and is just not working out for either of us. With this person's delicate health, they might be better off in a place where they can have access to medical help around the clock for a while, perhaps an assisted living facility temporarily and then into an independent apartment that is not a shared house like we have here. I would feel better if I could have someone who is a real neighbor AND who will pay their share of the bills and not keep saddling me with them. I'm also hearing alarming reports that I am being accused of regularly breaking into the other unit in this duplex, which is absurd, because I don't have the key and I would never do something like that and it makes me nervous to have that it out there that I am engaging in criminal activity of which I am completely innocent. These accusations are being published on a particular Facebook page and it amounts to libel and I don't know what to do about that.

I just can't keep affording to pay 100% of the utilities anymore. It's too burdensome financially. But since the neighbor won't communicate, I can't give them their amount of the monthly utility bill, so I can't expect any help from them. I won't tolerate that much longer. Bad enough that I have to wait until the tenant has left the house before I can make my way down the basement (which I access from an outside door on the side of the house), because if I do so while the tenant is home, they think that I am breaking into the house, so I can't go there anymore, even if I need to get to something down there. I snuck down there while the tenant was in the hospital a few days ago to change the furnace filter because it must be done every three months, as well as to pick up the storm window for the screen door to get that in for winter. It's that sort of thing that is making living here so difficult and frankly, I don't even know what to do anymore but just deal with the fact that I have a recalcitrant neighbor who refuses communication with me, to the detriment of us both. Maybe I can convince my landlord that it's just best off for her to move out. There will be plenty of places coming open in the spring when school is out and now is the best time to start looking, because landlords want to lease those places now. If a tenant is making another tenant's life miserable, I think that is grounds to tell them to move out. I don't think that anything's going to improve, I'm going to continue paying these high electric and water bills and frankly, I'm sick of one unit in this house being an all utilities paid unit when I don't have that luxury. Why should the other unit in this duplex be all utilities paid and one not? It makes no sense. Sure, I have the bigger unit, but that in no way implies that I should pay the entire cost of utilities for both units. I never agreed to that, but it's how it seems to have worked out since I moved in and it's not fair, but it's what I've been stuck with. Since the other tenant hasn't really unpacked and settled in yet, I think that it would be far easier for them to move out and find a better situation that would make them more comfortable. I would feel better if I could find someone who was a). more cooperative, and b). who would pay their half of the bills. I'm not going to put up with this tenant much longer. I'm so done with all of the neighbor drama. Time for a change. Let's hope that it happens once the tenant in the other half of the duplex is in better health. One can only hope.