One thing I've learned in this lifetime is that you really can't trust anyone. Ot at the very least, few people. Too many folks have an agenda and they will do almost anything to hurt you behind your back. It's a shame that I have gotten to where I hold the world at arm's length and have learned that even those you think you can trust you really can't, especially at work. There is where agendas are really clearly defined. People want to suck up to the boss and while they may seem like they are being nice to you and getting along with you, they really aren't and will do anything possible to hurt you when you least expect it. I decided to "unfriend" everyone on Facebook even remotely connected to my job because I have discovered that people will use social media against you behind your back and whenever possible. I hated to do that, even with those with whom I am friendly, but having trust issues as I have for too long now, it's better just to cut off everyone connected to work rather than take any risks that something will get back to the boss that might not be true but which it is hard to defend against. It's just better that way to limit one's Facebook friends to those you know aren't going to cause you to have work related problems. It's just not worth it. I've had trust issues my entire life because whenever I have made the mistake of assuming that someone won't hurt me, I find out to the contrary, so I have learned to hold the entire world at arm's length. I let no one in close now. Everyone seems to have an agenda anymore so it's just best not to have any close friends and to remain acquaintances instead. I miss having confidantes but you just don't know who, at the end of the day, is out to hurt you, so it's best just to not bother letting anyone inside of your defenses. Trust, with me, is a very hard won thing. It takes years to develop but seconds to shatter. So I choose to keep everyone at a certain length and slowly let people in until I feel like I can trust them. Sadly, right now, there's no one I'm letting in at the moment. I'd just as soon not take that sort of risk. Maybe once I retire from work and feel like it's safe to do so, I will, but for now, I choose to keep everyone out. Too many people out there who just don't have your best interest at heart and doubtless never will.
Tuesday, August 30, 2011
Trust
One thing I've learned in this lifetime is that you really can't trust anyone. Ot at the very least, few people. Too many folks have an agenda and they will do almost anything to hurt you behind your back. It's a shame that I have gotten to where I hold the world at arm's length and have learned that even those you think you can trust you really can't, especially at work. There is where agendas are really clearly defined. People want to suck up to the boss and while they may seem like they are being nice to you and getting along with you, they really aren't and will do anything possible to hurt you when you least expect it. I decided to "unfriend" everyone on Facebook even remotely connected to my job because I have discovered that people will use social media against you behind your back and whenever possible. I hated to do that, even with those with whom I am friendly, but having trust issues as I have for too long now, it's better just to cut off everyone connected to work rather than take any risks that something will get back to the boss that might not be true but which it is hard to defend against. It's just better that way to limit one's Facebook friends to those you know aren't going to cause you to have work related problems. It's just not worth it. I've had trust issues my entire life because whenever I have made the mistake of assuming that someone won't hurt me, I find out to the contrary, so I have learned to hold the entire world at arm's length. I let no one in close now. Everyone seems to have an agenda anymore so it's just best not to have any close friends and to remain acquaintances instead. I miss having confidantes but you just don't know who, at the end of the day, is out to hurt you, so it's best just to not bother letting anyone inside of your defenses. Trust, with me, is a very hard won thing. It takes years to develop but seconds to shatter. So I choose to keep everyone at a certain length and slowly let people in until I feel like I can trust them. Sadly, right now, there's no one I'm letting in at the moment. I'd just as soon not take that sort of risk. Maybe once I retire from work and feel like it's safe to do so, I will, but for now, I choose to keep everyone out. Too many people out there who just don't have your best interest at heart and doubtless never will.
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